HOW DID ROB PROGRESS THIS WEEK?
First of all, attended Columbia Business School LGBT Alumni Association’s Networking Event at Therapy (bar/club). Attendees included graduates of Columbia’s Masters in Business program—mostly successful gay men (exactly the user I wanted to reach). My goal for the past two weeks was to talk to some successful gay men to find out about how they currently deal with labels (sexual, gender, occupational, etc.). I spoke with:
*an entrepreneur who is starting his own LGBT elder care company (basically a nursing home for this new emerging market
*a Vice President within Investment Management Division of Goldman Sachs
*a branding expert and recent graduate of CBS
*a previous television/multimedia developer and current CBS student
*an executive at American Express
Because of the nature of the event (read: drinking and loud music), I wasn’t able to glean as much information as I could from them. I took the opportunity to make plans to see them over the next week for coffee to do more in-depth interviews. I have also sent them the survey found later in this update. I have also begun to contact younger, not-yet-established-or-successful gay men for interviews (surveys, too).
What do I hope to gain from these interviews (above and beyond expansion upon my survey)?
*a more illustrated/developed gap between inexperienced/experienced gay men (specifically in the context of labels and their link to gender roles and success)
*who and what contributed to your success? Stumbling blocks?
*what role does etiquette play in your success? Do you feel the need to homosexualize heteronorms within etiquette?
*gender norms—have you heterosexualized your relationship?
What did I learn about myself and about my project?
*There are a few good ways and a few bad ways to introduce myself and my project. I have a better idea of what works and what doesn’t.
*People have short attention spans when it comes to explanations. My speech at the review should be no more than 90 seconds.
*People love to talk about themselves. They are also really into my project. Listening is good.
My survey:
FOR GAY MEN ONLY: a survey by Rob Spalding
The purpose of this survey is to inform design decisions for my senior thesis at Parsons.
Please answer as honestly as you can.
All responses are anonymous and will be used by me for my researching purposes only.
1. What is your age?
2. At what age did you come out?
3. In what city do you live?
4. Is it acceptable to be out in your community?
5. Do you believe sexuality is a key component to a person's personality?
6. How much of your own personality is driven by your sexuality?
7. Are you currently in a relationship?
8. If yes, for how long?
9. What role do you play in the emotional aspect of your relationships?
10. What role do you play in the sexual aspect of your relationships?
11. What role do you play in the financial aspect of your relationship?
12. What is your level of education?
13. In what field do you work?
14. What is your motivation to go to work? Check all that apply.
15. What is your personal measure of occupational success? Check all that apply.
16. To what level have you achieved this success? Please rate from 1-10, 1 being the least and 10 being the most successful.
17. Please use this space to ask me questions, critique me, or elaborate on any of the questions I have asked you. Or leave it blank; it's up to you.
18. Thank you for helping me! Please pass this survey along to three more gay guys. The more responses I receive, the more accurate my design decisions will be. Thank you for your time and effort. Either forward them the e-mail I sent you or put their names/e-mail addresses in this response box.
RESPONSE UPDATE: I have 32 responses and counting. Age range: 21-65.
I have also honed in on using the format of the military (diplomacy) versus Amy V. I have begun to read Unfriendly Fire, a book published THIS YEAR about “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” It is a comprehensive view of political, gay America and will be helpful to my quest. The author is an accomplished writer on queer politics, so I have contacted him for an interview.
I have also visited the LGBT Chelsea chapter and got the names of individuals to contact for project sponsorship.
I leave you with some photos that have inspired/directed me this week (gathered at the NYPL image library):